A Letter to My Daughter

Dear daughter,

I’m so happy to hear the news, I couldn’t be more proud of you.

I can’t wait to be a granddad. But I have to admit that I am a little sad.

Not because you had a child out of wedlock, but because you were afraid to tell me. I’m sad that all the other men in your life have made you think this was unforgiveable. I’m sorry that all your pastors have made you think you’re going to Hell for this. I’m sorry that your friends’ fathers kicked their daughters out for this. I’m sorry that everything you saw made you think that I would reject you for this.

But I want you to know that you don’t have to be afraid because I love you anyway.

I want you to know that you’re free to choose what to do. And if you choose to have this baby, I will be here every second with you. And I will protect you and your baby. What you did may have been a mistake, but this baby isn’t no matter what they say and neither are you. No matter what people call you, I will stand up for you. If the church kicks you out, then I’ll go with you. If your job fires you, then I’ll hire you. If your friends turn their backs on you, we’ll find new friends for you. If the father dips out, I’ll be here till the end for you. Because no matter what happens, I won’t ever leave you.

I will love you no matter what.

But if you decide to abort this baby, I’m not gonna lie, I will most definitely cry. For the baby, for myself, for your mother, but most of all for you. But I promise you that I will never shame you, criticize or blame you. I promise never to see a happy mother with her baby and tell you, “That could’ve been you.” I promise to never preach a pro life sermon just to guilt trip you. I promise never to ask when you’re gonna get married because I promise never to pressure you.

And I promise to save you a seat when you come home–next to me and your baby. Because no matter what you choose, I will always love you.





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